Tenaciously clinging to the belief that if I communicate my ideas to others I might start a dialogue I blog on.
This morning I woke up thinking that it’s ridiculous to assign certain character attributes to a particular gender because we all contain all these traits. To say men are rational thinkers while women are more able to access their feelings is nonsense. To say that the attributes of courage and perseverance are male while nurturing, intuitive qualities are feminine is really just reinforcing ideas of gender that are imposed on us from a young age by the culture we live in. Advertising and the media constantly support gendered cultural norms but, in reality, we all embody all these qualities to some degree regardless of our gender.
Sure, some traits are generally more dominant in most men and others are more dominant in most women but we have qualities traditionally designated as being those of the opposite gender within us. We just have to figure out how to access them. When I was suddenly widowed and left with three little children to raise on my own I had to develop the more masculine traits of perseverance and courage in the face of adversity pretty quickly. It could be argued (by my kids mostly) that I never quite mastered rational thinking and still have a tendency to do irrational, unexpected things but that’s probably more my inherent nature than a gender specific quality. I’m sure there are men out there who sometimes do irrational, unexpected things too.
Scrolling through my WordPress Reader this morning I saw numerous blogs about how we need to connect with the Divine Feminine energies to counteract the increase in global militarism and violence, particularly between Muslims, Christians and Jews. All of those religions have a male Godhead. Reinstating the Goddess alongside these Gods is seen as a way of symbolically redressing the imbalance. It’s a very good idea but I’m wondering if it goes far enough.
If we must personify spiritual energies why don’t we take a leap into the unknown and develop the concept of gender neutral godlike beings. They could represent the highest qualities of both masculine and feminine. Their chief attribute could be their ability to see all sides of all situations impartially.
Maybe if we all took a step back and acknowledged that we all embody both masculine and feminine traits we could reach some place where we could formulate ways of being that are inclusive, non judgemental and egalitarian.